Of course, if you were foolish enough to marry a pig, I suppose you must be content to devote your life to the preparation of hog"s-wash. But are you sure that he IS a pig? If by any chance he be not?--then, Madam, you are making a grievous mistake. My dear Lady, you are too modest. If I may say so without making you unduly conceited, even at the dinner-table itself, you are of much more importance than the mutton. Courage, Madam, be not afraid to tilt a lance even with your own cook. You can be more piquant than the sauce a la Tartare, more soothing surely than the melted b.u.t.ter. There was a time when he would not have known whether he was eating beef or pork with you the other side of the table. Whose fault is it? Don"t think so poorly of us. We are not ascetics, neither are we all gourmets: most of us plain men, fond of our dinner, as a healthy man should be, but fonder still of our sweethearts and wives, let us hope. Try us. A moderately-cooked dinner--let us even say a not-too-well-cooked dinner, with you looking your best, laughing and talking gaily and cleverly--as you can, you know--makes a pleasanter meal for us, after the day"s work is done, than that same dinner, cooked to perfection, with you silent, jaded, and anxious, your pretty hair untidy, your pretty face wrinkled with care concerning the sole, with anxiety regarding the omelette.
My poor Martha, be not troubled about so many things. YOU are the one thing needful--if the bricks and mortar are to be a home. See to it that YOU are well served up, that YOU are done to perfection, that YOU are tender and satisfying, that YOU are worth sitting down to. We wanted a wife, a comrade, a friend; not a cook and a nurse on the cheap.
But of what use is it to talk? the world will ever follow its own folly.
When I think of all the good advice that I have given it, and of the small result achieved, I confess I grow discouraged. I was giving good advice to a lady only the other day. I was instructing her as to the proper treatment of aunts. She was sucking a lead-pencil, a thing I am always telling her not to do. She took it out of her mouth to speak.
"I suppose you know how everybody ought to do everything," she said.
There are times when it is necessary to sacrifice one"s modesty to one"s duty.
"Of course I do," I replied.
"And does Mama know how everybody ought to do everything?" was the second question.
My conviction on this point was by no means so strong, but for domestic reasons I again sacrificed myself to expediency.
"Certainly," I answered; "and take that pencil out of your mouth. I"ve told you of that before. You"ll swallow it one day, and then you"ll get perichondritis and die."
She appeared to be solving a problem.
"All grown-up people seem to know everything," she summarized.
There are times when I doubt if children are as simple as they look.
If it be sheer stupidity that prompts them to make remarks of this character, one should pity them, and seek to improve them. But if it be not stupidity? well then, one should still seek to improve them, but by a different method.
The other morning I overheard the nurse talking to this particular specimen. The woman is a most worthy creature, and she was imparting to the child some really sound advice. She was in the middle of an unexceptional exhortation concerning the virtue of silence, when Dorothea interrupted her with--
"Oh, do be quiet, Nurse. I never get a moment"s peace from your chatter."
Such an interruption discourages a woman who is trying to do her duty.
Last Tuesday evening she was unhappy. Myself, I think that rhubarb should never be eaten before April, and then never with lemonade. Her mother read her a homily upon the subject of pain. It was impressed upon her that we must be patient, that we must put up with the trouble that G.o.d sends us. Dorothea would descend to details, as children will.
"Must we put up with the cod-liver oil that G.o.d sends us?"
"Yes, decidedly."
"And with the nurses that G.o.d sends us?"
"Certainly; and be thankful that you"ve got them, some little girls haven"t any nurse. And don"t talk so much."
On Friday I found the mother in tears.
"What"s the matter?" I asked.
"Oh, nothing," was the answer; "only Baby. She"s such a strange child. I can"t make her out at all."
"What has she been up to now?"
"Oh, she will argue, you know."
She has that failing. I don"t know where she gets it from, but she"s got it.
"Well?"
"Well, she made me cross; and, to punish her, I told her she shouldn"t take her doll"s perambulator out with her."
"Yes?"
"Well, she didn"t say anything then, but so soon as I was outside the door, I heard her talking to herself--you know her way?"
"Yes?"
"She said--"
"Yes, she said?"
"She said, "I must be patient. I must put up with the mother G.o.d has sent me.""
She lunches down-stairs on Sundays. We have her with us once a week to give her the opportunity of studying manners and behaviour. Milson had dropped in, and we were discussing politics. I was interested, and, pushing my plate aside, leant forward with my elbows on the table.
Dorothea has a habit of talking to herself in a high-pitched whisper capable of being heard above an Adelphi love scene. I heard her say--
"I must sit up straight. I mustn"t sprawl with my elbows on the table.
It is only common, vulgar people behave that way."
I looked across at her; she was sitting most correctly, and appeared to be contemplating something a thousand miles away. We had all of us been lounging! We sat up stiffly, and conversation flagged.
Of course we made a joke of it after the child was gone. But somehow it didn"t seem to be OUR joke.
I wish I could recollect my childhood. I should so like to know if children are as simple as they can look.
ON THE DELIGHTS AND BENEFITS OF SLAVERY
My study window looks down upon Hyde Park, and often, to quote the familiar promise of each new magazine, it amuses and instructs me to watch from my tower the epitome of human life that pa.s.ses to and fro beneath. At the opening of the gates, creeps in the woman of the streets. Her pitiful work for the time being is over. Shivering in the chill dawn, she pa.s.ses to her brief rest. Poor Slave! Lured to the galley"s lowest deck, then chained there. Civilization, tricked fool, they say has need of such. You serve as the dogs of Eastern towns. But at least, it seems to me, we need not spit on you. Home to your kennel!
Perchance, if the G.o.ds be kind, they may send you dreams of a cleanly hearth, where you lie with a silver collar round your neck.
Next comes the labourer--the hewer of wood, the drawer of water--slouching wearily to his toil; sleep clinging still about his leaden eyes, his pittance of food carried tied up in a dish-clout. The first stroke of the hour clangs from Big Ben. Haste thee, fellow-slave, lest the overseer"s whip, "Out, we will have no lie-a-beds here,"
descend upon thy patient back.
Later, the artisan, with his bag of tools across his shoulder. He, too, listens fearfully to the chiming of the bells. For him also there hangs ready the whip.
After him, the shop boy and the shop girl, making love as they walk, not to waste time. And after these the slaves of the desk and of the warehouse, employers and employed, clerks and tradesmen, office boys and merchants. To your places, slaves of all ranks. Get you unto your burdens.
Now, laughing and shouting as they run, the children, the sons and daughters of the slaves. Be industrious, little children, and learn your lessons, that when the time comes you may be ready to take from our hands the creaking oar, to slip into our seat at the roaring loom. For we shall not be slaves for ever, little children. It is the good law of the land. So many years in the galleys, so many years in the fields; then we can claim our freedom. Then we shall go, little children, back to the land of our birth. And you we must leave behind us to take up the tale of our work. So, off to your schools, little children, and learn to be good little slaves.
Next, pompous and sleek, come the educated slaves--journalists, doctors, judges, and poets; the attorney, the artist, the player, the priest.